Turning ‘I can’t’ into ‘I can’

 Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t — you’re right. Henry Ford

I’m so proud!

I procrastinated on creating a website.

I hoped someone would come along to help (or do it for me).

I thought it would be too hard, too confusing, too technical, something I couldn’t do.

Then I chose to change my mindset.  I turned I can’t into I can.

And here it is! I know it’s not perfect, but I created it and, now that I know my widgets from my plugins, I’ll keep recreating until it’s just as perfect as can be. The sense of accomplishment is huge.

If I can do that with a website, why not a life?

Why can’t I create the kind of life I dream of  – the kind that feels too good to be true?

Why can’t I spend every day doing things I love, with people who interest and inspire me? Why can’t I do more yoga, more meditation, more reading, more writing, spend more time outdoors, more time on absolutely anything and everything that nourishes me? Why can’t I give up my job and my salary, and create a sustainable income doing what I love?

Surely not? Or surely yes? My kinder life is about turning I can’t into I can. I don’t know how I’m going to do it. I’ll experiment, I’ll get some things wrong, I might fail spectacularly sometimes, and I’ll learn.

Here’s the thing. I’ve never liked to fail. What if people laugh at my crappy website? What if they scorn my crappy blog? It takes courage  to try and fail, and try again. But I know I can.

Do you tell yourself you can’t when you can? Could you take a few minutes today to consider where you’re doing that, and what it would take for you to turn I can’t into I can. I’d love to hear what your discover.

And me? I still need to turn I can’t into I can for vlogging. (Aaargh, I’m going to be so bad at it! But hey, I can learn.) Watch this space!

Yours in mindful adventures,



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  • If you like what you see, please share it with others who you think will like it too. If you don’t like it, give me feedback! I’ll get it right, and then you can share it :-).
  • I believe you can turn I can’t into I can, and you can do it on your own. But I also had some help from a pretty amazing mentor, Megan Salole. Megan helped me see where I was secretly saying to myself I can’t and why. It turns out I wanted it to be perfect. I was comparing myself to others. No more perfection and comparison for my kinder life. It’s always enough that I can.


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  1. Sheesh, what a great challenge. I’ve got some work first of all, to truly identify what I’m blocking – what if I let myself dream big? I think it’s easy to let can’ts slip into my aspirations too.
    Off to ponder this over a cup of tea.
    Thank you!

    1. I hope the cup of tea has helped to inspire your big dreams Emily – However big the dream, always remember that you can!

    1. Thank you Selwyn! I’m so glad you like what you’ve seen so far, and feel very honoured to have made it onto your favourites bar 🙂

  2. Thank you so much for sharing your blog with me Christine. I feel privileged to read your thoughts. It gives me much needed pause for thought. Good luck x