The Whatever Rule: a life-changing approach to 2018

In the words made famous by Doris Day, Que Sera Sera. Whatever will be will be. 

I started 2018 filled with anxiety.

Over the past six months I’d created a blog and a social enterprise – two big steps outside of my comfort zone.

Now I felt like the weight was on me to make each of them a ‘success’.  And, what I wasn’t telling anyone (even myself), was that deep down, I didn’t know that I could.

2018 had to be do or die. Success or failure. Joy or despair.

And the only outcome I could consider was success. Except the little voice inside was constantly saying “but what if you fail?”.

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Why you’d benefit from a break today

Tomorrow I head away on holiday for a few days.

That means I woke up today with the familiar pre-holiday feeling of ‘way too much to do’!

So I did what any efficient, effective person would do: I wrote down my to-do list then circled the top three.

Then I got out my water colours, and painted for a couple of hours…

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Commit yourself and providence moves too

Photo by Dyaa Eldin on Unsplash

Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it! – Goethe

It will cost $75,000…or thereabouts. It’s hard to say for sure.

Gulp.

Apart from buying a house, I’ve never spent $75,000 on anything, never considered it, never come close.

Who does that?!

Entrepreneurs do.

… so I guess I’m now officially an entrepreneur.

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How to get free from the shackles of shame

“You either walk inside your story and own it, or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness” Dr. Brené Brown

I was eight when I started at my fourth primary school.

I wasn’t worried about fitting in or making friends. I was confident, chatty, adaptable.

Pretty soon I was friends with two sisters. They invited me to their home after school – a clear sign of firm friendship in my eight year old world.

A day or two later the bombshell came. My two new besties told me we couldn’t stay friends. Their parents had told them so.

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What would you do if you had nothing to fear?

Don’t worry about failures. Worry about the chances you miss when you don’t even try. Jack Canfield.

Oh, how quickly fear can bite us!

Last week I wrote about redirecting myself towards cultivating kindness. I wrote about taking my time, letting the ideas percolate, not committing too early to just one thing. I was in control!

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Embrace the ‘messy in the middle’ on the path to purpose

‘If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading’ – Lao Tzu

I’ve pivoted.

This project and blog were meant to be about mindfulness.

I quit my job to spend a year exploring mindfulness, overcoming the struggles, finding bliss, blogging about it, and hopefully developing ‘some stuff’ to help other people get more mindful and blissful too.  Or so I thought.

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‘Do you think you are really happy?’

Whenever it feels like a dark day, remember that true light comes from within

“Do you think you are really happy?”

I was touched by the question from a young boy to his weary mother, in a film I saw this week.

She was living a good life: working, running a household, raising a son. Was she happy? Probably not. Did she want to confront that? Definitely not.

How is it that we get so caught up in ‘life’ that we lose touch with what makes us truly happy? How often do we stop and focus on what really matters to us?

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Ending a love affair with money

“I have enough money to last me the rest of my life – unless I buy something” – Jackie Mason (comedian).

When I was a kid I loved watching ‘It’s in the Bag‘.

I would yell at the TV “the money, the money” or “the bag, the bag” and feel my excitement swelling as the contents of the bag were revealed.

That might just have been the start of my love affair with money – and all the good things money can buy.

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Confessions of a blogger in PJs

Let us recognise the precious nature of each day – The 14th Dalai Lama

Confession: It’s (after) midday on a Monday and I’m still in my PJs. I haven’t done yoga or exercise yet. I’ve had no contact with the outside world – no radio, social media or emails. I haven’t spoken with a single soul. And I’m all good with this!

I’m getting asked a lot what my kinder life is about. It’s difficult to tell you yet. Maybe it’s just about wearing PJs in the middle of the day and being ok with that. Maybe it’s about finding what will truly inspire me every morning to get out of my PJs and into the world.

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Turning ‘I can’t’ into ‘I can’

 Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t — you’re right. Henry Ford

I’m so proud!

I procrastinated on creating a website.

I hoped someone would come along to help (or do it for me).

I thought it would be too hard, too confusing, too technical, something I couldn’t do.

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